One prayer habit that I developed many, many years ago was to pray for my sons’ future spouses.
As God blessed Kim and me with three sons, I knew that one day they would each desire to have a wife to love and be loved by. And I have prayed for over two decades that God would bless each of my boys with godly wives who will love them but will love Jesus even more.
You see, we have invested in the lives of our boys. We have trained them, and celebrated them, and prayed over them. We want them to grow up to make the most of the one life God has given to them.
3 John 4 (NLT) “I could have no greater joy than to hear that my children are following the truth.”
But, all it would take to derail my boys is for them to fall in love with a girl who doesn’t love the Lord. Kim’s and my hearts would melt. It would grieve us because we know that they will have settled for far less than God desires for them. They will have forfeited many of the blessings that God desired to give them.
A few minutes ago, I was reading through Genesis 26 and came across the following verses:
Genesis 26:34-35 (NLT) “At the age of forty, Esau married two Hittite wives: Judith, the daughter of Beeri, and Basemath, the daughter of Elon. But Esau’s wives made life miserable for Isaac and Rebekah.”
It broke Esau’s dad and mom’s heart that he had married women who were not God-followers. He married women who did not follow the God of Abraham and Isaac … and they knew that it would not be long before Esau would abandon the Lord as he was influenced by the women that he loved.
In fact, we read in the following chapter just how much it broke Esau’s mom’s heart. She was devastated over Esau’s marriages and was so afraid that Jacob would do the same thing. She couldn’t bear the thought of her second and only other son marrying a woman who would pull him away from the Lord.
Genesis 27:46 (ESV) “Then Rebekah said to Isaac, ‘I loathe my life because of the Hittite women. If Jacob marries one of the Hittite women like these, one of the women of the land, what good will my life be to me?'”
Kim and I realize that all of the work that we are pouring into our sons could immediately be for naught if they choose to marry women who do not love the Lord. So, I’ve been praying for those special ladies for over 20 years.
I want my boys to be happy and enjoy God’s best for them. Praying for their future spouse is the least I could do with a desire to secure God’s blessings for them.
Why don’t you develop this habit? Pray for your child’s future spouse. Or, if your children are grown, pray for your grandchildren’s future spouse. Who knows how God might choose to use your prayers to bless the generations that come after you.
One final question: Where did I get the idea of praying for my sons’ future spouses? Well, it was back in 1992 before I met Kim. I heard the following song by Wayne Watson and it started my prayers for those future women that continues to this day.