October 5: “The Blessing of Marital Roles”

6 Minute Read + Scripture readings

Today’s Bible Reading:

1 Kings 8
Ephesians 5
Ezekiel 38
Psalms 89

Today’s Bible Verse(s):

Ephesians 5:22-24 (CSB): “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord, because the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church. He is the Savior of the body. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives are to submit to their husbands in everything.”

Reflections on Today’s Bible Verse(s):

On September 29, I posted a link on my social media account from an Associated Press news article in which the current Supreme Court Justice nominee is being ridiculed for her religious beliefs about marital roles. The article is entitled: “Barrett tied to faith group ex-members say subjugates women”.

You can access my reflections and responses, on my social media account, to that article by clicking here. Doing so will allow you to see the many questions and comments it elicited and my clarifying responses.

Or, you can keep reading this article as I simply copied-and-pasted my original post.


This article claims that the next Supreme Court Justice’s religion says that her husband is the “head” of her house. Isn’t it funny that they say it like it’s a bad thing, like it is disparaging to women … even though the current object of their disdain … is headed to the Supreme Court.

For the record, people who are appalled at the “headship” of husbands don’t understand it. They apparently don’t even bother to understand it. They just throw rocks at it. I wish they would read Ephesians 5:18-32 and put it into context.

First of all, men and women are created equal. In Genesis 1:26-27, we see that God created men AND women in His image. Both genders bear the striking resemblance (in a flawed, Genesis 3 kind of way) to the God who made us.

Second, men and women are equals and coheirs with Christ (Galatians 3:27-28). There are no special privileges with God based upon whether we are male or female in the bodies He gave to us.

Third, wife AND husband are told to submit to each other (Ephesians 5:21). In fact, this is one of the tell-tell signs that we are actually filled and led by the Spirit of God (Ephesians 5:18). If a wife isn’t submitting her needs and desires to those of her husband, and if the husband isn’t submitting his needs and desires to those of his wife, then God clearly isn’t reigning in their heart.

Fourth, the wife is told to “submit” to her husband (Ephesians 5:22) as the husband is told to “love” his wife with the same selfless love that Jesus has for us (Ephesians 5:25). But, what does the wife’s submission look like? Just read the last verse of Ephesians 5

Ephesians 5:33 (CSB): “To sum up, each one of you is to love his wife as himself, and the wife is to respect her husband.”

The wife is told to “respect” (what her submission looks like) and the husband is told to sacrificially love (what his submission looks like).

If you were to poll 100 men and ask them what they they most want emotionally from their wife, they would say that they want her to respect them. If you were to poll 100 women and ask them the same question, they would say that they want their husbands to sacrificially love them. So, Ephesians 5 is simply a command to give each other what each other needs to thrive. A biblical marriage is one in which we obey God’s commands that provide us with what we need to be happy and holy.

So, the headship of the husband, as taught in Scripture, doesn’t mean that the husband dominates his wife. His wife isn’t a child that obeys. The wife is nowhere told in Scripture to “obey” her husband.

Instead, it means that God is going to ultimately hold him responsible for the wellbeing of everyone in his household. If a wife is struggling, God will hold her husband responsible. So, the husband leads by serving, and loving, and encouraging, and directing, and helping his wife to thrive and to become more like Jesus. If she isn’t doing well under his leadership, almost certainly he isn’t leading like he is supposed to.

And if she follows the commands of her God and ends up at the very top of the ladder, serving as a Justice on the United States Supreme Court, only a willfully ignorant person would mock such a biblical worldview.

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Lord Jesus, while Your Word may sometimes not make sense to me, help me to realize that it is always intended to demonstrate Your glory and is always for the ultimate good of those You died to redeem. So, help me to obey with a grateful heart and look forward to the day when I can obey and enjoy and worship You in the beauty of perfect holiness. Amen.

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I have an incredible wife that God gave to me on May 10, 1997. Since then, the Lord has blessed us with three wonderful boys. I am also the pastor of the First Baptist Church of Polk City, Florida.

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